Master Key Week 12 – Feeling thankful

I’ve had a roller coaster of emotions today.

Life is good. No, actually my life is AMAZING. I have a family I adore; two kids whom I love so much I could burst; a husband who, while he thinks the work I’m doing now is bat-shit crazy, supports me in following my bliss; I have an incredible business partner whose talent leaves me awestruck and so grateful to be working with her; I have an honest-to-goodness book; and I have loads of outside validation that the healing methodology I’ve co-created is changing lives in profound ways.

The one thing I haven’t had is work-life balance. I have been laser-focused on my career, getting my new energy practice off the ground and getting the Trigger Release Method the exposure it needs to really make an impact on the world, that I’m missing out on my family. If I’m not hiding in my office at my computer then I’m multi-tasking ALL THE TIME. What am I going to write for my next blog post? I need to come up with clever Facebook posts to attract business! Still have to design that flyer for next month’s workshop! Damn, I’ve got to fix that page on my website…let me just make note of the changes I need to make. It goes on and on. I might be with my family, but I haven’t been PRESENT.

I’ve mentioned before that I eat, sleep, and breathe subconscious work. It’s what I do. My initial reason for starting MKMMA is no longer the reason I’m continuing with it now. The information I’ve been picking up in the webinars and from the exercises is complementing my work so well…I’m doing my job better as a result. The Methodology is improving as a result of these new insights.

This morning it occurred to me to use TRM on myself to figure out if my subconscious was working on manifesting “every last bit of my DMP.” I was pleased to discover the answer was, “Yes”! Then I asked if my subconscious was also creating blocks to manifesting these goals. Also a solid “Yes.” [“Blocks” is TRM lingo, but if you’ve studied the Law of Attraction elsewhere, you’d recognize that we can send the universe mixed messages…on the one hand, messages of what we want, then on the other, simultaneous messages of doubt. The universe doesn’t get a clear message, so nothing is manifested at all.]

What came out was interesting. I discovered a couple of long-held beliefs which started when I was a kid which, I realized I had never fully let go of. The first was  “I never get what I want. Everyone else always gets what they want, so something must be wrong with me.” I realized the truth in this statement when I thought about the instinctive little pang of jealousy I would get when I’d hear about something fun or exciting someone else did, but which upon reflection, I’d realize was not something I actually wanted. I can’t think of anything I want that I don’t already have, or am in the process of getting…so where would the jealousy come from if not a subconscious belief?

The second belief was even more impactful. “Only through hard work will I receive praise. I can’t take time for fun.” There it was. This was the belief that was keeping me from enjoying quality time spent with my family. And also, that work needs to be “hard.” The idea that if I’m not overworked, I’m not doing it right.

I had a good cry as my subconscious released those old beliefs (I know something has shifted when the unexpected waterworks start!) and I’ve got a new sense of calm.

I didn’t expect to write this blog post tonight…I had thought I might even have to skip this week altogether because I desperately wanted to establish some work-life balance. But here I am, and it feels like the thing I’m supposed to be doing right now.

Even better, though, my family watched The Empire Strikes Back tonight (we’ve got tickets for the new Star Wars movie on Dec 23, and we need to make sure the kids know the whole backstory!)…and for the first time in YEARS, I didn’t multi-task. I was present. And there wasn’t even the slightest pang of guilt that I was supposed to be doing something else. I am amazed and grateful.

We’ll see how I feel tomorrow, but in this moment I feel like I can do anything I want. My DMP involves selling 1 million books and my press release has me sitting with Oprah…look out world, ’cause here I come! 🙂

 

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Master Key Week 11 – An Extraordinary Week

I don’t journal. It’s not a habit I ever got into, and I write enough in my career that I don’t suppose it’s something I’m likely to start any time soon.

However, this has been just one of those weeks that I feel like I want to document it all just for the sake of being able to go back and relive it if ever I’m feeling a little low or feel like things are going all wrong.

This was one of those weeks where everything just seemed to be going right. I feel like I’m walking on a cloud.

So, my dear reader, this one isn’t for so much for you as it is for me. I don’t particularly love reading about another person endlessly “tooting their own horn,” so I won’t feel offended if you don’t make it all the way through! 🙂

So I’ve recently joined a BNI. If you don’t know what that is, it is Business Networking International. In a nutshell, this is an organization which, as the name suggests, has chapters all over the world. Each chapter consists of a bunch of business professionals who meet every week for the sole purpose of generating referrals for each other. There is only one person allowed per business category, so there is no competition for referrals.

Gotta put in right here, the BNI motto is “Givers Gain.” In MKMMA-speak: “Give more, get more.” Could I have joined a more perfect group?

As the newest member, I just went to my training session on Monday. At the same time as I joined, our particular BNI group had some rules changed on the corporate end so members need to enter a particular category of information into the computer system ourselves (they used to just put it down on a slip of paper for the secretary to add in). So I learned how to do it the new way. The member training was really good. Learned a lot of great stuff and when I got home I played around with the computer system to apply what I had learned. (This will be important later.)

Had a meeting after the training session to help out one of my husband’s co-workers who found out I have published my book…she wanted to ask me questions on my experience…it felt great being on the other end of it, being able to speak knowledgeably about the ins and outs of self-publishing and see her visibly relax as I was able to allay some of her concerns over how to proceed. A wonderful feeling!

Then in the evening I had a phone session scheduled with a long-time client of mine who had been dealing with a concussion – lots of horrible symptoms – for the past while. We ended up not actually needing to do a session because it turns out after our last one she’s been remarkably improved! Her headaches were almost completely gone, as with the nausea, and her energy levels were way up! We had taken a different approach with Trigger Release that last time, and apparently we found the block! I wanted to celebrate!

Tuesday I had a couple of appointments, both of which were cancelled, so I had the whole day to get stuff done. Can’t complain about that kind of day!

Yesterday I went to a networking meeting. This group meets every month. We had a replacement facilitator this time who did something a little different…after our one-minute infomercial, she told us to put to the group a request for something that could help us achieve our goals in 2016. I’m planning to do a workshop for the beginning of January, and I had no idea how to get my flyers in front my target audience (spiritual workers)…that has been causing me some concern for several weeks now. No sooner had I asked the question than one of the members offered to send me some names of people to talk to. Wow! She has just done so, so I’m on my way.

I don’t know what has happened.  I’ve been attending this same group for a while, but all of a sudden, I feel like I really belong there. I’m enjoying myself simply getting to know the other people, not thinking about how this might immediately turn into business. I was having a lovely conversation with a gentleman there about energy work and a few minutes into the conversation he asked if he could buy a copy of my book! Wow!

I went to my parents place for dinner that night, and thinking about BNI and wanting to be able to provide a referral for someone for the next meeting, I decided to ask them some questions about their home insurance. As it turns out, their premiums are going up in January so they’d love a quote from the insurance broker in my group. Yay! I can give a referral!

Before I left, my mom gave me some money because she sold one of my books to a cousin she has visited. Another book!

Best of all, I got home to discover that one of my books was purchased online from California…it turns out my awesome MKMMA Guide, Stephen, ordered one as well. 🙂

And today was the BNI meeting. The franchise owner came in to do a talk about the new computer system to get everyone up to speed on how it all worked; since I’d already been using it, I was able to ask a lot of questions and answer some as well…all that positive attention…I felt like a rock star! Every month they recognize the people who have scheduled the highest number of one-to-ones with other members in the group, and the one with the most referrals. To my surprise, I won the certificate for the most one-to-ones. And then at the end of the meeting, I also won the “door prize” which they give out weekly to one of the people who gave a referral or brought visitors to the meeting that week.

And finally, the icing on the cake came in just a short time ago. One of the BNI members had a session with me on Friday and did a brief testimonial for me during the meeting (forgot to mention that one!) but she has also put one in writing on the BNI recommendations section of my profile. It’s too good not to share:

“When I first met with Renu, I was unsure of what I was getting myself into. After I left our session, I felt like a whole new person. It was an amazing eye-opener. I was able to let go of some negativity in my life that has been holding me back from opportunities and my overall self confidence. Renu also helped with my constant crave for sugar and sweets (which I thought could never go away!). It was amazing to see Renu break down to specific events that have caused my cravings for sugar and my dislike of a variety of foods. I was extremely impressed and happy with my first session. Renu is so passionate and educated about Trigger Release Methods which is no surprise that I left our session feeling amazing. Thank you Renu for all your help! :)”

I don’t know if it’s BNI, MKMMA, or just the fact that I eat, sleep, and breathe subconscious work (working on myself as much as I can!) but whatever it is, I am so very, very grateful for it and intend to do everything I can to deserve it.

Master Key Week 10 – I will persist until I succeed

This post is just going to cover a few small observations that I’ve been taking note of over the past few days or weeks.

I finally feel like I’m getting back on track! I think having a week without a webinar helped…each time something new was added when I hadn’t completed the old was beginning to create some overwhelm. This week I decided to tackle one small thing each day to gradually get caught up. Not (anywhere near) there yet, but if we have a few more weeks without the requirement to add additional time to complete something new, my chances of me eventually getting there get better and better!

I persist until I succeed. 🙂

Thank heavens for masterminding! As I had mentioned in an earlier post, I know myself well enough to recognize that I am often more “externally” motivated than “internally” motivated…the last few days that I have made a conscious effort to decide on a goal and then send it to my mastermind partner, I’ve managed to get it done. These same goals have been on my to-do list for weeks, but in making myself accountable to someone else to do it, I was substantially more motivated to accomplish it.

And while I may be on-and-off with completing a number of the course requirements, still nothing has impacted me more than these two concepts which I have mentioned before, but which are worthy of repeating. One, you’re always training your subconscious…you’re either training it to pursue your goals, or you’re training it to give up. Despite me knowing that I haven’t been able to complete all the course requirements the way I would like to have, making me feel that I am “behind” the rest of the class, I’m going to see this through to the end. I will persist until I succeed.

The second is that anything I put on an index card that has a date on it gets done. A few weeks ago I put on the rather simple chore of getting a police record check to volunteer at my kids’ school. It had been on my to-do list for a few months, so I thought using it as my service for my card would kill two birds with one stone. Wow, was it a royal pain to get it done! I won’t repeat the whole story. If you’re interested in hearing about the ups and downs, you can read this post which described it. When the post was written, though, I hadn’t completed it as yet. Even more obstacles were put in my way, but I finally submitted it before going out to dinner on the SUNDAY NIGHT. Talk about cutting it close! But the exhilaration I felt after completing that supposed-to-be silly little task was unbelievable! Mark has said that when we read aloud our completed tasks we should be as excited as though we had won the superbowl. And that’s exactly how I felt. And still feel.IMG_20151122_161901

So the following week, I upped my game to another chore that’s been on my to-do list for much, much, longer. Not a hard chore, nor especially time-consuming, but tedious and almost pointless. Handwashing. I have had a basket of clothes that have needed to be handwashed for years. Normally I’d just throw clothes that say handwash into the gentle cycle, but these are Indian clothes that one would wear underneath a sari…translation, the colours bleed like nobody’s business! I’d have to run each piece separately so they don’t damage each other. Ugh! There was a time when I was wearing my saris very frequently because I was going to so many weddings. I haven’t been to a wedding where I’d need a sari in years, so there hasn’t been any sense of urgency to get this task done.

With it on my index card, however, I was driven to get it done. Was my subconscious making it easier to do? Or am I still consciously choosing to make sure that my subconscious is programmed appropriately? Can’t be sure yet…at least my subconscious isn’t sabotaging my desire to get the job done. Wherever I’m at, I’m really enjoying the rush of peptides that completing these tasks has been providing!

Just for fun, I’ve included a picture of the completed handwashing all hanging to dry. “I will persist and I will win.” 🙂

Master Key Week 9 – Oy!

If I thought the previous weeks had been busy, I didn’t know what busy meant! I seriously haven’t known whether I’m coming or going this week!

I been picking up the pace in my business – this week I was booked solid with appointments or networking meetings or the like from pretty much the minute the kids leave the house until (or after) they return from school. That makes the afternoon read a challenge, but not enough to make me stress out over it.

Then start making dinner, feed the family, hubby and I split taking the kids to various evening activities, and he does the dishes and bedtime/storytime; so I can usually find an hour or so for myself. Not this week. My dear husband has been running himself ragged at work and with church committees for the last few weeks, so I have had all the duties for both of us…Now I’m been lucky if I can scrape five minutes for myself before crashing in exhaustion! Yesterday I tried to write a blog post for my business site and I fell asleep with my iPad in my hands.

Thank goodness it’s Friday! At least I can stay up a little late to catch up on reading some other blogs and to do this post…I’ll be able to sleep in tomorrow.

So I’m continuing to plug away. I’m grateful that there’s no webinar this week…I hope this will give me the breather I need to catch up! I’ve mentioned before that I’ve given up feeling guilty about this kind of thing a long time ago. I have appreciated through my time as a dietitian that beating yourself up over past mistakes only leads you to feel like you are incapable of making the changes you’ve set out for yourself, which then leads to eventually giving up. I always have taught my clients that your very next meal is another chance to do it right. So, I know if I’ve missed a reading, I’ll have another chance to get one in. There are no end of chances to do it right.

I have no problem looking at the Gal in the Glass…we both know that I’m doing the best I know how to do.

 

Master Key Week 8 – On Masterminding

I’d been having difficulty getting myself back on track since “falling off the wagon” as it were. Sundays are family days for me (we go to my in-laws for dinner every week), so I’ve never been able to watch the full webinar when it is first broadcast. That meant that I’ve missed all the masterminding sessions.

This week…just yesterday, in fact…my “MKMMA tribe” had a group call; essentially, it was our own small-scale mastermind. Suddenly the people on whose blogs I’ve been commenting, and those people in the alliances who provide random questions or assistance, became real. I no longer feel like I’m doing it on my own and nobody *really* cares whether I complete it or not (except myself, of course), and that nobody would notice if I just dropped out of the program (apparently my own tribe dropped from 14 to 10 people…could I tell you who disappeared? Nope.)

Now there are faces, voices, and personalities associated with those names. Now I’m not doing this by myself. Yes, I’m still doing this for myself, but nobody wants to be the one not keeping pace with the group, pulling it all behind; so, suddenly I feel inspired to do better, to discover what “my best” really can be.

I look forward to the masterminding part of the MKMMA. I prefer working with other people whenever possible, so I feel good that this next phase will suit my learning style better than anything else so far. Bring it on!!!  🙂

Master Key Week 7 – on Promises

“If you’re not going to see it through to the end, then don’t start; either you’re teaching your subconscious the habit of perserverence, or the habit of quitting.” I’m paraphrasing because I don’t remember the exact quote, but it’s the message that has stuck with me the strongest since beginning this  program. 

These last couple of weeks have been very hard for me, and to be quite honest, I haven’t been able to keep up. I’m not going to complain that the course is too demanding…it is what it is. I am completely aware that every part of it works in synergy with everything else. It would not be nearly as effective if it were not throwing in every possible mechanism to retrain the subconscious as possible. I just have happened to hit the busiest time in my professional life that I can ever remember experiencing. 

Two weeks ago I literally walked away from my career as a registered dietitian to open my doors as an energy practitioner using a technique nobody has ever heard of before because a colleague and I developed it together. So, now I’m trying to build a brand new business from scratch, with the added pressure of having to convince all my skeptical friends and family (including my husband!) that leaving dietetics was a good thing for me, and that given some time, I’ll actually be able to make money in my new career. 

Two weeks ago, my partner and I also (finally) managed to have published our book on the Trigger Release Method (see my Press Release for details) which outlines this technique. We’re holding our book launch in two days, and after that it’s full speed ahead to start filling our practitioner training course. 

And somewhere in there, I’m still a wife and mother of two young kids, getting dinner on the table and trucking kids to and from extra-curriculars. 

I’m swamped. I hear about others with their busy careers and wonder how they get through it all. 

I gave up feeling guilty about not being perfect long ago, though. I am doing the very best I possibly can. I don’t watch TV. I don’t surf the web. I don’t spend time shopping for anything other than groceries. I don’t play computer games. It took me a week to watch a movie on Netflix last week because I watched it in bits while cooking dinners. My biggest “vice” is reading the newspaper! Everyone needs some downtime…

So that brings me to “promises”. I’ve promised myself that I will see this course through to the end, and I will. Everything with a date on it on my service card gets done. This week I decided that I was going to finally get around to getting a police record check so I can volunteer at my kids’ school. I filled out the form and took it to the station on Wednesday, where the told me the form had been updated, so I needed to get the new one from the school. So, I trouped to the school where, indeed, they had new new forms on hand. Back to the police station on Thursday, where I’m now told that there is also a cover letter that is now supposed to accompany the form. Called the school, and yes, it turns out they do have one of those which will be sent home via my daughter. Tomorrow, I will be back to the police station. It’s on the index card and has a date. It WILL be done. 

I know I’m picking up good habits (and the skills to learn good habits!), so while things are difficult now, I will continue to follow along and absorb as much as I can. 

I’m a pretty capable person who doesn’t generally like to admit to feeling overwhelmed, but if this post can help anyone else who is struggling to get it all done, I want you to know you’re not alone. I’m quite sure I’m not the only one. 🙂

Master Key Week 6 – Scroll 2

I’m pleasantly surprised with how every week so far, there’s always been at least one thing about this course that sparked an “aha moment” or that just moves me to want to write about it. This week is no different.

I absolutely LOVE Scroll 2. It’s core principle is “I will greet this day with love in my heart,” and to be quite honest, it’s exactly the kind of message I would have rolled my eyes at in the not very distant past. I think that may have something to do with why I’m finding it so remarkable! 🙂

It’s just written so beautifully and integrates so well with everything else we’re doing at the moment. For example, No Opinions…”How will I speak? How will I act? How will I react to the actions of others?” To respond with love at all times is to forgo our opinions where it is most important to do so, where it impacts on our interactions with others. It is one thing to tell us what *not* to do, but this scroll tells us what *to* do instead, and somehow I find that infinitely more powerful.

And I think my favourite line is:

“And most of all I will love myself. For when I do I will zealously inspect all things which enter my body, my mind, my soul, and my heart. ”

It fits right into the concept of one’s Mental Home (which I was so enamoured with last week,) but it takes it one step further in personalizing it even more. It subtly asks the question, Do you love yourself enough to keep your mental, physical, and spiritual “home” clean? Then throw in the “Guy/Gal in the Glass” and the trio make a phenomenally powerful combination.

Gotta say, with that in the back of mind, every time I’ve looked at a piece of Halloween candy lying about the house I say to myself “I love myself too much to put that crap into my body!” and I have had no trouble leaving it on the table. Amazing!! Probably the most brilliant motivational tool I’ve yet come across!