Master Key Week 5 – On Opinions and our “Mental Homes”

So I spent a lot of time when I was nowhere near a computer mulling over what I would write about in this week’s blog post. In my head, this post was spinning out of control…so much to say! But I’m going to do my best to keep it brief because there are only so many hours in the week, and I anticipate that my Press Release will take up a significant chunk of time.

Opinions! We’re meant to spend the next two weeks as the non-judgemental observer…with no opinions whatsoever. Wow! This is challenging! I try to be fairly non-judgemental as a general practice, with a “live-and-let-live attitude,” but I’m still catching myself quite frequently saying or thinking things that are obviously opinions.

I knew things were getting off to a bad start when I was listening to the webinar replay in the evening and no sooner had Mark announced the assignment than my husband called me on the phone to tell me my iPad was too loud and I need to turn it down because he could hear it upstairs where he was trying to sleep, and what was my very first thought? “You turkey, I get that it is too loud, but couldn’t you just ask me nicely to please turn it down?” You could practically see the judgement rolling off of me. Yikes!

And then just yesterday the weather was pouring rain and no matter where you went, someone would comment on how miserable the weather was…whereas I would normally not worry about expressing an opinion on the weather, it gave me pause when I realized that for this assignment, even those thoughts are to be banished. I spent the rest of the day remarking, when someone else would comment on the incessant rain, “well I certainly did not enjoy driving in it!” (That was not an opinion…it was definitely a fact!) 🙂

My one concern is that in order to make decisions, we need to make judgement calls. We need to have an opinion. Mark used the example of “who do you think will win the game?” as an opinion not to express. But if I think my local sports team is going to win the big game, then that would affect my decision to not go driving into the city when the game is due to let out.

Tomorrow I will be meeting with my partner to discuss a marketing plan for our business it’s true that I don’t have a marketing background, and neither does she, so neither of us is an expert, but we must come to an agreement on what we like better…for the purposes of this assignment, am I supposed to just let her make all the decisions? And then hold my tongue if I think she is making the wrong one?

Like I said, I’ve spent waaaaayyyyyy too much time thinking about the ramifications of this assignment. I guess a little more clarification would be nice.

The other thing I wanted to mention today is that I am in love with this part of the Master Keys. Something about the comparison of building a home for ourselves and building our “Mental Home” just resonates with me so well.

5-9 “If either of us were building a home for ourselves, how careful we would be in regard to the plans; how we should study every detail; and yet how careless we are when it comes to building our Mental Home, which is infinitely more important than any physical home, as everything which can possibly enter into our lives depends upon the character of the material which enters into the construction of our Mental Home.”

It’s a beautiful picture to keep in mind…it helps to keep that in mind through the day, giving us a reason to always stay focused on the positive. We are building our mental home, and need to be careful of the character of the materials we are using. What a wonderful thought to carry!

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Master Key Week 4 – Noticing old blueprints

I’ve mentioned before that I work a lot with the subconscious in my career… simply put, I help people who have identified certain problems in their life to discover the triggering life event that created the need for the problem in the first place, and then to release it from the subconscious where it is lodged. A big difference from MKMMA is that where I assist to remove prompts that cause unwanted behaviours, the methodology I work with cannot create new, positive habits.

What that means for me is that I look for old blueprints (subconscious triggers) a lot, and I was fascinated this week to discover one of my own “blueprints” that I never knew existed.

So we were told to add a new task to our “Plan” index card…one that would further our PPNs…and initially, I didn’t quite understand what exactly that meant.

So while I was trying to figure out the answer, I left it blank…and then didn’t read the card with the others because the card was incomplete. Somewhere in my mind, that seemed like a justifiable response.

This is where I caught myself running a blueprint that didn’t consciously make sense to me. Why did I do that? Why didn’t I just take a guess at a task and change it later if necessary? Or fill out the rest of the card and read it without the one task? Why did I simply freeze and not do anything?

Was I afraid of making a mistake? No. I make mistakes all the time and that doesn’t bother me.

Was I afraid of making my card messy and having to redo it? No. It’s true having a messy card would annoy me, but I’m not averse to writing it out again.

It took a little time, but I figured it out:  I’m afraid of looking stupid. Don’t get me wrong, I have not the slightest insecurity about my own intelligence, and I’m not at all embarrassed to ask questions when I don’t understand something. But I hate it when there is the possibility of someone else discovering, no matter the topic, that I don’t have a clue. I hate guessing. I’m okay making an educated guess and being wrong, because at least then I can explain how I reached my conclusion, but I get anxious when I’m asked for an answer and I have no idea what is being asked of me. I’d rather not answer at all than “look” like I was off the mark.

That certainly explains why I hate even the thought of playing trivia games! 🙂

The exciting part of this is that now that I’ve identified it, I can change it. I can examine it and face my fear when I see it rearing its ugly head. I’m quite sure that that old blueprint has stopped me from taking action – in my business and otherwise – many times in my life; it has not served me well and I will be delighted to be rid of it.

It will be interesting to discover and redesign other unknown blupeprints as the course progresses.

Master Key Week 3 – the week all hell broke loose

Ain’t gonna lie…this week was an utter disaster for me with respect to this course. I had so many commitments pulling me every which way, I had next to zero time for myself.

I went to an out-of-town wedding (8+ hours of driving each way), and while I was there I spent the whole time visiting friends I hadn’t seen in a very long time. (Which was totally awesome, BTW!)  Unfortunately, however, my husband is not particularly supportive of this type of work in general, and I had no desire or intention to loudly read my DMP (or anything else) while he was around, so it was all I could do to manage to sneak in a couple of chore cards while he was getting gas, and some other readings while he was in the shower. At one point he went for a nap and I went out to belt out my DMP in the car. 🙂

Upon my return I also needed to spend time with my cousin in hospital; and it was Canadian Thanksgiving so I had obligations to cook and go visiting relatives;  all this left me behind on the webinars, too.

So yup, this week was a write-off.

Thank heavens things have finally settled down again! I’m quite proud to say that I’ve managed to catch up on most of the webinars (still working through some of the digital connections) and have been back on track with all the homework for the past 2 days. Even completed my chore for the week this afternoon!

All of this is to say that I don’t really have any insight to offer this week. I’m not feeling guilty about any of this because I know I’m doing my best (not just the best I can), and I also know that we all have weeks like this where life spins a little out of control. I do want to apologize to anyone who has begun to follow my blog, first, because I do actually want to provide something insightful and/or interesting for you to read (my pity-party hardly qualifies as either!) and second, I haven’t had the time to look at any of your blogs to return the favour. Please be patient…I most certainly intend to as soon as I am able.

Until next week!

 

Week 2 – on Meditation

This week, the major challenge for me was the 15 minute meditation time. Last week, all we had to do was sit completely still, commanding full control of our bodies, for 15 minutes. The first couple of days while I was trying figure out what I was going to do for a timer were a bit difficult (not certain of how well the timer was supposed to work made me jumpy over the idea that I’d go too long or two short.) but once I got that figured out, it was a breeze.  In fact, by the end I’d be startled at how quick the 15min were up!

This week was surprisingly different. This time, we are expected to block out all thought while we meditate. Do you have any idea how hard it is to think of NOTHING? After a few successful seconds my brain went “Hey, that was great! I’m not thinking of anything!”…followed by “Damn! Stop thinking!” The first day was so difficult that after about the 10 minute mark I found my whole body start to itch uncontrollably! I don’t know what was going on, but I needed to cut that session short…I just couldn’t take it.

Since then, I’m pleased and surprised to say that it has indeed gotten better. I can go much longer periods of time before a stray thought works its way into my mind, and I don’t seem to have as many ants in my pants…I can sit for the whole 15min. I will say, however, that despite developing better control of myself during this, the experience really feels like a lot of work once again. The time just drags on! I won’t lie and say that I always last the full 15 min each time (it’s just so boring!) so I’m really looking forward to next week which Haanel suggests will be more interesting.

Here’s hoping! Until next week! 🙂

 

Master Key Week 1

So many things that piqued my interest this week that I don’t even know where to begin!

The first thing I’d like to say is a huge “Thank You” to Cassandra O’Neil who sent me a quick message seemingly out of the blue suggesting I consider this course only a couple of short weeks ago. I knew nothing about it before then, and wasn’t even looking for something new to add to my already rather full schedule, but I’m so glad I took the time to listen to that first video because now I’m convinced that this has come into my life at exactly the right time in my journey.

What got me first…the whole concept of “pay-it-forward” just resonated more than I can express. I am skeptical by nature, so I don’t quickly rush into buying programs just because of well done advertising. The fact that this is a scholarship program – you can’t buy your way in – paid for by previous graduates, speaks volumes more than any ad could. That previous classes got so much out of it every step of the way that they would contribute the money necessary for the next class to take the course is awe-inspiring. I knew right away that this was a group I wanted to be a part of.

Now that we’re into it, I’m very pleased and excited about all of the new things I’ve already learned, and even just the way the course is structured and run.

The course is all about reprogramming the subconscious – understanding how to do so – to achieve anything we desire. In my “day job” I also do a lot of work with the subconscious, but from a different perspective. This method is suddenly filling in gaps in my understanding, and I’m so excited by it! The most fascinating phrase I heard was “the subconscious has no defence against the sound of your own voice”. Not something I had really encountered before, but it makes so much sense! Had I not understood that, I might have felt uncomfortable about the amount of reading we are expecting to do out loud…I may have tried to get away with reading it in my head “with emotion”… but now I positively look forward to it!

And doing the various readings every day, three times a day for a couple of them, makes sense. So far so good, but it’s only been 3 days, so I can only hope I don’t get bored of them too soon! It helps that I actually like the readings, although, to be honest, the Master Key Lesson is rather tedious. Thank goodness we only have to read that one once per day!

Looking forward to see what the next week has in store. Until next time!